” Her life changed the day she learned that she was just as valuable as everyone else. ~Unknown. “
See that first girl?
Now the second?
The difference between her is eighty pounds and a lifetime of obstacles overcome.
Most people are going to wonder why the pictures are backwards. Most scroll through social media to find the after pictures smaller than the before…but not this one.
Yet it is still a success story.
In a society where worth is based on outward appearance…where you are judged by the size of your pants or the shape of your breasts… we are losing the ability to see the actual person. As you browse through social media and success story after success story pops up in your news feed you can’t help but question your capabilities and feel inadequate for not being in that same place. For not being “there” yet.
We’ve all been there at some point.
This week as I looked in the mirror at my “failure” of a body I could not help but also think just what this body has accomplished, the beautiful little people this body has brought in to this world, and the places this body has been.
I have spent many times putting my life and my happiness on hold….waiting until I could lose that next twenty pounds.
I have avoided wearing the newest clothes because my arms or legs needed to be covered, or because I was going to wait until my body was the right size.
I diminished my job as a wife, mother, and friend…allowing myself to think that minus fifty pounds would fix my marriage or fill my voids.
I let my love handle dictate which functions I attended, and my cellulite to forbid me from swimming with my children.
My wedding day picture hangs on my wall not as a reminder of the beauty of marrying my best friend and becoming one before God, but instead as a symbol of when I was once good enough.
This has to stop.
Our self worth is NOT in our body size.
Our sense of what it is to be a loving, valuable, strong woman and mother is not dictated by the size of our pants.
That lighter girl in the first picture had the same family problems, self doubts, and insecurities….if not more, than the bigger one.
I am in no way defending obesity…but I am defending self-worth.
So to the woman who isn’t “there” yet…you are here. Live here in the now. You deserve it. you are worth it. Each pound is a life lesson, each scar a battle won.
Regardless of waist size you are an accomplishment. Your raising warriors, you’re saving lives…impacting lives, you are building careers, and you are standing courageous in a world that has yet to truly acknowledge the true beauty of a person.
So the next time you look in that mirror in disgust, or disappointment. Next time you try to step out of a picture with those beautiful little ones. Remember that you are loved by your family, by your friends, and most importantly by a God that cares more about your heart than your dress size.
Embrace life here in the full, while reaching for the future.
…and someday you’ll get there.
You are a success story.
You are enough.
In the right here.
In the right now.